Imagine That..

Caught a movie with my son on Thursday afternoon - "Imagine That" starring Eddie Murphy. Had more or less completed most of my pressing deadlines that had kept me busy during the week so thought why not spend some time wif my darling son? I asked him to choose a movie while I was at a meeting and when I came back to my table at 1.30 pm, he pointed to "Imagine That" on the website http://www.incinemas.com.sg/ and we realised we had only 45 min to catch the movie at 2.20! So we rushed there, bought burgers, hot dogs and drinks as well and sat down next to another 'parent and child' couple! The show was basically about how Eddie Murphy, as a high-flying parent, had no time to spend wif his daughter till he realised that his daughter was communicating with spirits that had valuable insights on his insider trading! So he also entered this fantasy world of princesses, dragons and queens with her, becoming closer to her in the process. Although it was quite cliched, it was enjoyable to see how Eddie Murphy let loose his inhibitions and play with his kid. Makes me reflect on my own parenting role - am I spending enough time with my kids? Hmmm....

Kids are really representations of angels. We adults are so i

mmersed in our rat race that we forget the joys of being with these angel

s. My ex-stu

dent invited me to a birthday party last nite. Even though I was reluctant to go at first as I did not know what time the party starts and how to contact t

his boy, in the end I was convinced by my own conscience. How could I let down a kid on his birthday? How many kids invite their teachers anyway, to their parties, two years in a row too? I should be honoured as I was also invited to his birthday party last year

 held at McDonald's. Last but not least, teachers are supposed to portray values such as integrity and trustworthiness. So I bought a pack of sparklers for the kids to play with. It turned out to be a huge B

BQ party attended by the whole extended family of grandparents, aunties

, uncles, cousins and even neighbours. The boy had invited my son as well, so sweet of him. The adults were so impressed that I remembered the names of the boy's classmates, even after

 one year. I told them that their names are imprinted on my mind because I had to call them constantly during the lesson to behave themselves or hand in work, haha! Anyway it was nice to see how the kids enjoyed themselves and I also chatted his grandmother up. She's one hell of a cook - her beehoon and curry veg were scrumptious! 

5 WAYS to be LUCKY

5 ways to be lucky

1. be proactive!. the unluckiest people are those who wait for things to happen (it often doesn't).
2. ask questions and listen. The more you know about what is going on the more likely you are to be 'lucky'
3. recognise the difference between 'unlucky' and 'probable' - you aren't unlucky each time you miss a parking space, in fact it would be extraordinary if you didn't every so often
4. reframe failure as an opportunity to learn everyone makes mistakes and successful people usually make more of them
5. share credit for your luck if people think they will gain from your good fortune then they will do more to make it happen

Going Uphill

Thinking positive sure isn't easy! It's like going uphill! But that's where the peak is, rite? I dun wanna sink into depressive thoughts. I don't wanna compare myself with others and feel second-grade. What I wanna feel is hope, faith, love and trust. I'm hoping to be a more effective and understanding teacher. I'm hoping to be a more caring mother. I have faith in myself cos I have abilities that will help me work towards my goals. I want to love deeply and be grateful for every second that people spend with me. I want to trust people when they say they like me.

I had a wonderful break today. This is one of the good things about being a teacher! Went for a hair trim and feel lighter already. Hair is still long, cos my hairdresser said my hair is too silky and soft to waste in a short hair cut. So I'm growing it out and enjoying the feel of longer hair! It feels so nice to touch and play with. I like to twirl it, wear it in a bun, let it fall around my shoulders and feel it brush against my neck and shoulders. I really LOVE long hair!

About Ris Low.. i think Singaporeans have been too harsh towards her. I like her guts and her sweet looks. She has the grace, height and slim figure as well. Despite her past conviction and mental illness, she still took on the challenge of entering this beauty contest. She definitely wanted to put the past behind her and reach for a new life, but too bad she had to be disqualified cos of something she did in the PAST. I really don't think she should be penalised for something that happened in the past, but at least I feel she had the guts to join the contest even despite knowing she might be penalised for it. She really is a brave gal and I think she will move on to overcome this setback and achieve even more remarkable things. My heart goes out to her because I know having a mental issue is a sign that she has been through hard times when she was young. I hope she will stay strong and resilient and more than that, I hope she will meet people who have the heart to help her to be beautiful on the inside as well. When I saw her video, I could sense both vulnerability as well as strength and resilience in this young woman. Some say she was not beautiful enough to win the title. Well I think the judges saw something else besides physical beauty (not that she's ugly actually). Perhaps its the way she carries herself, or something radiating from within her? Well I wish her all the best. She definitely deserves it.

Sometimes beauty isn't about outer looks. It's also not about righteousness. It's about triumph over weakness, courage in the face of fear, success after repeated failures ...and most of all, about forgiveness and hope. People are too quick to judge someone based on their actions but have they looked into the heart? Some of these people may have committed what is labelled as crimes such as fraud or even prostitution, but they may have done so because of circumstances or forces beyond their control. Just because a woman has not stolen, cheated, lied or is a virgin till marriage, does not make her beautiful. It is overcoming the weaknesses in us and through that, learning to be compassionate that makes a woman beautiful. How can we understand shame, hopelessness, failure and fear if we have not experienced them? To me a beautiful woman is one who is gracious and hopeful and holds her head up high despite setbacks and difficulties.

I'm going to sleep now. I've been loved today, but what makes me even happier is that I've learnt to love deeper than before. I've learnt to let go of jealousy and be happy for the person I love, even when he loves someone else..

What Women Need...

I wonder why men often forget that women aren't wired the same way as them. After a night of sex or a "sex-escapade", men go into 'standby' mode. By that I mean they switch off not just the physical part, but also the emotional part. I understand that they need to get back to their work and other stuff, but why is it that they don't maintain the emotional intimacy? After a few days or a week, when they start longing for physical intimacy again, they start getting lovey-dovey, talking endlessly about sex. Well as a woman, I know I need to feel not just physically needed, but emotionally as well..it's not the sexy talk that turns us on, but the loving words of concern, the caring messages, the errands and the company even just to get some groceries or a swim ...


Anyway I know I definitely will hate being treated as a booty call, sex-pet or fuck buddy, as they call it. The way I'd handle it is not by whining or complaining though. Once I start noticing that I'm just being treated as such, I simply switch off my emotions as well and stop picking up the calls. No point hanging around trying to grow flowers in a desert. I'd rather find fertile ground!

Talking about needs, I've been swimming much more this week. 30 laps each time and it really feels good. I bought this red 2-piece from Speedo, a tankini I think. But it's really comfortable compared to my 2-piece bikini from Sunseeker. Check it out below. The reasons why I was inspired to swim more are simply my expanding waistline and my vanity! I noticed this petite slim lady swimming non-stop at Bishan on Monday. Was supposed to swim with someone who pulled out last minute..turned out to be a blessing cos I went to Bishan, got inspired and now my swimming workouts will be 30 laps and no less!! Feel slimmer already, hehe.. That's what I NEED too - to feel fit, slim and sexy :)

Listening to Phil Collins "Groovy Kind of Love'. Bought his CD from Sembawang Music Shop at Thomson Plaza a few weeks ago. I kinda like his voice. Reminds me of a fren I knew long ago, voice a bit nasal but still soothing.
Once a woman has got the right attitude about herself, she doesn't have to worry about not getting what she needs, whether it's love, sex or respect!

You Know You're In Love When..

you miss the person even more after spending almost the whole day with them..

you still feel the butterflies every time you are going to meet, even after four years..

you can't eat very much when you're with him ..cos he makes you hungry for something else...

Emotional Hunger

Here I am, hunger gnawing at my insides while i try to tire myself out so I can fall asleep.. somehow through a miscommunication, I ended up without dinner.. But there's a greater hunger that's eating me inside.. the hunger for release from all this drudgery..i'm getting tired of living this endless cycle of work, chores, sports without anyone to share it with. By anyone I mean - a soulmate....I've decided that I'd stop this diet of 'crumbs and snacks'... yeah i'd crave for them but I must go cold turkey till the addiction is gone..till I don't think of it anymore.. and my heart is free to embrace a wholesome diet. It will be hard but I'd rather shiver in loneliness than drag myself through such pain and heartache.. I've become like a hollow tree.. the hunger for love eating away my insides..Just less than 3 months more, and hopefully by then I'd be ready to bloom again.

Crumbs and Whole Meals

Somehow we make excuses for people we love and when they give us so little of their time, we just accept it out of love...but ultimately the relationship gets strained cos our needs are not met and we feel taken advantage or even taken for granted..esp when the friend or loved one is only nice to you to get something they want... Well if i really love someone, I want to spend time with the person - even if its doing nothing. Just talk and be in the company of that person..that is why it is called love. You love the person. But if a person claims to love me and yet only sees me when help or something is needed, then how is that love? How can one hour out of a whole week be enough to qualify as QUALITY time and loving time?? Even two hours is rather short ...

Well I want whole meals, not crumbs. I want long walks, long talks, dinner+movie+supper, a day at the beach, a whole nite out...