Isn't this a status choice in Facebook? haha, it's truly a nice tagline for a movie that is hilarious and yet unnerving. Watched it yesterday and it's like watching parts of my life. If I were Jane, who would I choose - the ex-husband or the architect? To be honest, at first I was rooting for Jake, the ex-hub. Cos he seemed so in love with her and they seemed to have so much chemistry. Imagine a man preferring to have sex with YOU, a mature woman in your 50s with wrinkles, sagging boobs and eyelids, rather than his HOT SEXY YOUNG wife with washboard abs and delicious boobs spilling out of her bra! But when it came to the part when Jane waited up for him but he couldn't make it because his HOT wife wanted sex, I started thinking "he just wants his cake and eat it too." At that part, I cried a few tears because I had actually experienced how she felt, all dressed and hoping to spend an evening with someone only to be stood up cos that person had to spend time with his wife. I remembered feeling like Jane, so lousy and confused, asking myself "why did I have to stoop so low?? Am I that desperate to be loved that I have to allow myself to be treated like that?" It was not just once, but many times that I had to experience that lousy feeling of being stood up. Ok, back to the movie. Then the next morning, he turned up for lunch and Jane actually cooked him his FAVOURITE dishes. But all it takes was a call from his young wife demanding him to go back and he had to leave. That was the breaking point for Jane. She blurted out as she was carving the chicken - "by the way I have a date". I don't think she had intended to go with that architect but if I were her, I would do the same thing. After ALL the trouble you took to cook his lovely dishes, this spineless guy can't even say no to his wife. The only thing he was capable of was sneaking out behind her back to meet Jane for sex. He only gave lip service to his feelings for her, but when it came to the crunch, he could not do it. This kind of guy only wants his cake and eat it too. He wants the sweet taste of the forbidden fruit but he's not willing to sacrifice for it. So Jane thought to herself - all he wants from me is the sneaky meetings, the quickies, the lunch dates..but deep down his heart he is still not going to leave his young wife, no matter how much he says he prefers Jane's company. When Jane started seriously dating the architect, he made a move to leave his wife but by then it was too late. Jane knew he would rather have her as a mistress than a wife.
To be fair to men, I think this movie shows that men wants more than just a hot body. They need someone they're comfortable with, someone who makes them feel good not just physically but also emotionally. Well that's what I THINK. But men will still be men. A HOT body is always too good to pass over. Personality and character almost always loses to looks, well initially.
This movie also shows what women really want. Not hot passionate sex ONLY, but someone who cares about their needs, listens to them and spends time with them. Jake was only initially interested in the sex and was hoping Jane would be satisfied with just that, but she needed more. That's why affairs don't last, cos they mostly aren't relationships. Relationships involve sacrifice, responsibility, respect, caring, sharing interests and future goals. Talking about goals, I found out why Meryl Streep looks so good for her age. She swims a mile everyday! That's like 35-55 laps? Wow. I'm so inspired that I'm going to swim 3 times a week for two months and then gradually work up to 5 times too, and see how it goes. I just came back from a swim, in fact. Feel like a million dollars!!
Friday, January 22, 2010
Saturday, January 16, 2010
No time to feel
That's me on my school website as well as organizational chart in the general office. Taken in Sep/Oct last year. Not bad huh, I must say. But these two weeks have been soooo hectic that I don't even have time to feel nice or maybe even look nice. My nail polish is chipping, my eyebrows badly need trimming but I still don't have the time to go tend to them! There's so much to do at school for the first month. But one thing I do feel is - FLABBY! Haven't been exercising as much as before. This week I only managed to clock in 3 times. So I have packed my exercise gear and going to either gym/swim right after my tuition. The state of my body determines how I feel. If I'm flabby, then I don't feel good. I NEED to be FIT and TONED before I can feel great. So this week I'm going to squeeze at least 4 times a week of exercise no matter what!
Friday, January 1, 2010
Welcome 2010
Can't believe its been a year since my "Welcome 2009" post here!! Here I am, halfway through the first day of 2010, sipping milk tea (made by my son) and feeling comfy in my blue spaghetti strapped baby doll dress :) I woke up this morning at about 8 am, sprang out of bed like a deer to get to the wet market to buy fresh salmon. Could almost inhale the fresh sea scent of it as I drove out in my car. My family has taken to salmon ever since I started buying it from the wet market instead of the supermarket. I found out that the part of the fish nearer to the belly is so tender and tasty because it's got more fat. I haven't tried salmon belly strips yet, though but I will soon! Cost me about $20 for 4 pieces of the salmon. I'm going to marinade it wif some Japanese teriyaki sauce and then grill it wif some butter. Simply sumptuous!
After marketing, it was intensive labour as whole family got about cleaning up the house. My aunt's dropping over for lunch and games. So glad for these Magiclean wetwipes - they really make cleaning up the floor a breeze. Within half hour, I had cleaned up the entire house! Just attach, wipe, clean and throw. No need to lug a heavy pail of water around, messy water spills and waiting for floor to dry. In fact, I find that these moist wipes pick up dirt better than the traditional wet mop. But frankly speaking, I'm really not into house cleaning. To me its really a CHORE. Wat I enjoy most though is grocery shopping, cooking and washing up!
My sweet angel of an aunt came over at lunch, just after I've finished showering and dressing. She's such a frugal person. She earns peanuts as a cleaner at a Christian book store but gives us so generously for each of our birthdays - around $100 each! It really shows what a kind and generous heart she has. So I decided to bring her to Nanbantei, the Japanese restaurant in Far East Plaza to try the yakitori. In case you have not tried it, it's one of the best yakitori in town. Been there for 20 over years. The Obento set is only $13 (served during lunch time only) and is so filling that you really need to skip breakfast if you're going to have it for lunch. Read more about the restaurant here :
http://global.hungrygowhere.com/singapore/nanbantei_japanese_restaurant/
Here's a picture of the bento set :
After lunch, we went back. My aunt brought her Rummy set to play with us. We always play this whenever we meet at her place. But I couldn't join them this time as I had to do some urgent school work. Well I've just finished it before I started blogging. Talking bout school, I'm teaching a P3 class Science and Maths this year, in addition to my usual PE workload. I have PE classes across 4 levels - Pri 3 to P6! Really challenging! Well my New Year resolutions will be to win the Best Teacher award again. I won the Best Teacher Silver Award this year. What's so prestigious about it is that it is voted by the pupils (just like the S'pore Idol). In order to attain my goal, I'd have to speak more encouraging remarks, be more understanding and caring and also be more humorous! The kids always love a funny teacher rite?
In terms of personal goals, I want to be more focused on my fitness regime - doing quality workouts each time. I also resolve to be more frugal, like my aunt and spend more on my friends and loved ones.
Well my aunt is napping now. I gave her a BIG angpow for her Christmas and birthday (which was on 29/12) consisting of $300 shopping vouchers and $100 cash. That's cos she really really deserves it. It makes me sooo happy just to think of her buying something she likes with the vouchers, cos I know she's one who will not indulge in herself. If I had given her cash only, she'd just save it or give it to someone else, that's her! Do you know she's already 69 but she leads such an active busy life, always going out with her friends, helping others and occupying herself very productively. When you're around her, you don't feel you're with some grumpy, disgruntled, cynical and tired old lady at all. She's full of fun, love and warmth.
Hmm.. I guess I've allowed the negative bugs to bite me in 2009 quite a bit. Well I resolve to be more postive this year. One of the ways is to be around positive people more often. So if you're negative, please stay far far away from me!
Before I go to chat with my aunt, do have a great start to the new year and lots of wonderful, loving, successful and warm moments ahead! Do keep healthy and remember to EXERCISE!! Health is wealth! Cheers!
After marketing, it was intensive labour as whole family got about cleaning up the house. My aunt's dropping over for lunch and games. So glad for these Magiclean wetwipes - they really make cleaning up the floor a breeze. Within half hour, I had cleaned up the entire house! Just attach, wipe, clean and throw. No need to lug a heavy pail of water around, messy water spills and waiting for floor to dry. In fact, I find that these moist wipes pick up dirt better than the traditional wet mop. But frankly speaking, I'm really not into house cleaning. To me its really a CHORE. Wat I enjoy most though is grocery shopping, cooking and washing up!
My sweet angel of an aunt came over at lunch, just after I've finished showering and dressing. She's such a frugal person. She earns peanuts as a cleaner at a Christian book store but gives us so generously for each of our birthdays - around $100 each! It really shows what a kind and generous heart she has. So I decided to bring her to Nanbantei, the Japanese restaurant in Far East Plaza to try the yakitori. In case you have not tried it, it's one of the best yakitori in town. Been there for 20 over years. The Obento set is only $13 (served during lunch time only) and is so filling that you really need to skip breakfast if you're going to have it for lunch. Read more about the restaurant here :
http://global.hungrygowhere.com/singapore/nanbantei_japanese_restaurant/
Here's a picture of the bento set :
After lunch, we went back. My aunt brought her Rummy set to play with us. We always play this whenever we meet at her place. But I couldn't join them this time as I had to do some urgent school work. Well I've just finished it before I started blogging. Talking bout school, I'm teaching a P3 class Science and Maths this year, in addition to my usual PE workload. I have PE classes across 4 levels - Pri 3 to P6! Really challenging! Well my New Year resolutions will be to win the Best Teacher award again. I won the Best Teacher Silver Award this year. What's so prestigious about it is that it is voted by the pupils (just like the S'pore Idol). In order to attain my goal, I'd have to speak more encouraging remarks, be more understanding and caring and also be more humorous! The kids always love a funny teacher rite?
In terms of personal goals, I want to be more focused on my fitness regime - doing quality workouts each time. I also resolve to be more frugal, like my aunt and spend more on my friends and loved ones.
Well my aunt is napping now. I gave her a BIG angpow for her Christmas and birthday (which was on 29/12) consisting of $300 shopping vouchers and $100 cash. That's cos she really really deserves it. It makes me sooo happy just to think of her buying something she likes with the vouchers, cos I know she's one who will not indulge in herself. If I had given her cash only, she'd just save it or give it to someone else, that's her! Do you know she's already 69 but she leads such an active busy life, always going out with her friends, helping others and occupying herself very productively. When you're around her, you don't feel you're with some grumpy, disgruntled, cynical and tired old lady at all. She's full of fun, love and warmth.
Hmm.. I guess I've allowed the negative bugs to bite me in 2009 quite a bit. Well I resolve to be more postive this year. One of the ways is to be around positive people more often. So if you're negative, please stay far far away from me!
Before I go to chat with my aunt, do have a great start to the new year and lots of wonderful, loving, successful and warm moments ahead! Do keep healthy and remember to EXERCISE!! Health is wealth! Cheers!
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