What Women Need...

I wonder why men often forget that women aren't wired the same way as them. After a night of sex or a "sex-escapade", men go into 'standby' mode. By that I mean they switch off not just the physical part, but also the emotional part. I understand that they need to get back to their work and other stuff, but why is it that they don't maintain the emotional intimacy? After a few days or a week, when they start longing for physical intimacy again, they start getting lovey-dovey, talking endlessly about sex. Well as a woman, I know I need to feel not just physically needed, but emotionally as well..it's not the sexy talk that turns us on, but the loving words of concern, the caring messages, the errands and the company even just to get some groceries or a swim ...


Anyway I know I definitely will hate being treated as a booty call, sex-pet or fuck buddy, as they call it. The way I'd handle it is not by whining or complaining though. Once I start noticing that I'm just being treated as such, I simply switch off my emotions as well and stop picking up the calls. No point hanging around trying to grow flowers in a desert. I'd rather find fertile ground!

Talking about needs, I've been swimming much more this week. 30 laps each time and it really feels good. I bought this red 2-piece from Speedo, a tankini I think. But it's really comfortable compared to my 2-piece bikini from Sunseeker. Check it out below. The reasons why I was inspired to swim more are simply my expanding waistline and my vanity! I noticed this petite slim lady swimming non-stop at Bishan on Monday. Was supposed to swim with someone who pulled out last minute..turned out to be a blessing cos I went to Bishan, got inspired and now my swimming workouts will be 30 laps and no less!! Feel slimmer already, hehe.. That's what I NEED too - to feel fit, slim and sexy :)

Listening to Phil Collins "Groovy Kind of Love'. Bought his CD from Sembawang Music Shop at Thomson Plaza a few weeks ago. I kinda like his voice. Reminds me of a fren I knew long ago, voice a bit nasal but still soothing.
Once a woman has got the right attitude about herself, she doesn't have to worry about not getting what she needs, whether it's love, sex or respect!